Ace 5th BD Celebration Pt 1 (with Gandie and Ganma)

Ace has had a very happy birthday this year.... he had many celebrations and recieved lots of toys as presents :)

It seems that for his birthday this year, everyone unnaimously, without prior discussion decided that the theme for presents would be CARS and ROBOTS :) Maybe it is a typical choice for a 5 year old boy.. hahahaha

His list of presents include:

1. Transformer bag, transformer bottle, transformer pencil case + Transformer Tshirt + Toy story movie treat (Ganma Karen and Gandie Zhiguang)


2. Robot tat can talk and shoot bullets (Yeye)


3. Transformer Bumblebee (Michael)


4. Some sort of Bionicles Lego Robot (Josephine)


5. Orange car lego set (Eileen)


6. Chocolate birthday cake with 3 tigers on it (Steff)


7. Optimus Prime transformer (Ah Yee and net net.. but will be delievered one mth later)


8. Red packet (Popo, zhen popo, Nainai)


9. Buzz lightyear (Teacher Loke, his swimming Teacher)


10. Lego City Helicopter (Melvin, Germaine and Tiffany)


11. 2 shoes, 1 pants and one police car (from Max)


12. Magnetic Car set (from me)
    
13. 3 books (Zhenyin)
    
14. Buzz lightyear figurine tat can talk (FF)
    
15. Buzz lightyear pencil case (Nick and Steff)

He also had quite a number of celebrations which started a week before his birthday ;)
We celebrated on Saturday with LUNCH at Swensens and Toy Story Movie with Karen and ZG

Celebrated one more time on a Monday night with Yeye, Nainai and Shushu

Celebrated at Mac Donalds with my friends, Steff, Jo and Michael (they are so sweet.. really appreciate their gesture and the time, effort and money they put in it)

And we celebrated one more time in school with his classmates

Come 30th June, we going to celebrate one more time as well cos it will be his Chinese birthday according to my mum.. she said she will buy cake for him on that day...

Anyway, these are the pictures of the first celebration with Karen and Zhiguang.. we went to Swensens for a meal and unfortunately, it was TOY STORY THEME there.. so Ace started to get excited and said he doesnt want transformer cake anymore for his school celebration and asked if I can buy him the buzz lightyear cake instead...

Sway sway leh, when we came out from the movie, a little boy was holding a transformer toy and so from then onwards, Ace kept asking for a transformer toy :S

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Argue Argue...

The other day, Ace had an argument with me... and he surprised me with his ability to argue lor!

Ace was swimming when Aunty Germaine came and passed him one more present.. and then leh, Mr Loke, his swimming teacher also bought him a present... when he went home n opened it up, Mr Loke actually gave him a buzz lightyear tat can kick and Germaine they all gave him a Lego CITY helicopter...

So onthe way home, we agreed he will eat his dinner, open his present, play and watch Mr Bean movie and sleep...

So leh, he came home and cannot wait but opened his presents immediately.. and after tat i asked him to keep and said we will play after dinner..

After dinner, me, him and Ah Yee and net net sat there and made the helidcopter for him.. halfway, my fren called me because she wanted to pass me something and so I went to meet her and when I came back, the helicopter was already done..

Being so happy to see Ah Yee and Net Net again (after 2 years of not seeing them), Ace went with to the bedroom to watch Mr Bean together using Ah Yee's computer...'

and then later when he came out, I accidentally hit his helicopter and so the propeller dropped.. so I said, "Sorry sorry.." and tried to fix it back... and then in the end, he got upset and then he said, "no, no no.. it is not here. it is up up up.. not down down down...." And then so I rearranged it and he got upset again...

"No no no.. you never follow the map.." he said, pointing to the instruction manual...

"It is correct mah.." I told him... "No no no, you do it wrong.. this one is very difficult one okay, is Ah Yee and net net do one... you dunno one..."

At this point, Ah Yee, who was sitting in the same room start to snigger and told Ace, "Ace ah, you buay zai si ah.. talk to your mumny like that..."

"But it is correct what.. See, still can turn and you can still play what..." I told him... and he insisted it is not up up up but down down down again.. (I also dunno what he means)

And then I got angry and and reminded him not to be rude and then I stopped saying anything... and then seeing that I had no response, he came and gave me a one liner that shocked and also made me REALLY angry...

"You never follow the map, it is not up up up.. you dun have eyes ah, dunno how to see the map ah..." he said.

Wah, that made me really angry.. and so I told him, "What you are saying is very rude.. I don't want to talk to rude little boys. From now on, I am not going to talk to you..."

And then he also got upset... and said, "I also don't want to talk to you..." and became quiet.

After about 10 seconds, he got more upset and said, "Do you remember last time when I am young and I do naughty things, you always give me a chance, why now you never give me a chance?!"

I told him I already gave him a chance just now but he was still rude, so i don't want to talk to him...
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Before I could cool down, he started mumbling to himself again.. "不知道搞什么鬼..."Ace said and he continued to mumble grumble.. He folded his arms and looked angry and I just ignored him... And then he started to mumble to himself again.. “乱七八糟..."

So I went into the bedrooma and lay down on my bed while I cooled down. He came into the room, took his bolster, lie down on bed for a whiile and went out into the living room to lie down on the bolster and the sofa..

After a while, I decided to bath and I decided to give him a chance... so I asked him, "Are you ready to be polite and speak politely to me? If you are, then I will talk to you..."

"Sorry, mummy..."

And then I went to bath and after tat we were lying on bed and talking and I asked him why when he came into the room, he did not talk to me. "I afraid you will scold me..." So I reminded him that I always forgive him when he says sorry... and then he told me actually it was also because he was also still feeling angry then...

Anyway, afterward, I asked him where he learnt to speak so rudely and he said, "I learn from TV lor...."

I told godma Karen about this and she says, "Then no more TV for Ace!"

I told Ace that godma says no more TV for him if he is going to learn rude and nonsensicle things from TV and he said he will not do that anymore.

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I Want Daddy

3 months after Max's new stint in dubai... Ace finally shows how much he misses his dad in a tantrum....



I was drinking water and come and shake my hand.. I told him not to do tat and explain tat I might spill the water on him...

And then leh, he continue to shake.. so I purposely (but pretend to make it like accident) poured some water on him n he got upset and cried in the kitchen.. and he said, "I don't want to see mummy... I dun want mummy, I dun like her.. I want my daddy.. I want my daddy.. where is my daddy..."

So I went to look at him.. and he continue.. "I dun want to see mummy..."

Then after that, I asked him again.." You really dun like me? Who buy present for you.. who help you xi pi gu, who sleep with you... who celebrate your birthday for you???"

He think think.. and tell me, "I like mummy and daddy..." but continued to cry..

So I told him I am sorry.. and explained to him that he cannot move my hand when I am holding plate or cup.. tat is wat happenes if he do that... and then he think for a while and said, "Sorry mummy..."


In the evening, we talked abotu this incident again and Ace asked me why even though he angry with me, I still hugged him... and why I still hugged him even though he was a naughty boy...

I told him because I love him even if he say he dun love me.. and even if he naughty......because I will always love him no matter what...


Well, I think he is much pacified after that... nothing unconditional love cannot heal or resolve ;)

Speaking of which, Ace has been rather sweet lately. There have been many nights before bedtime and before we sleep and he will tell me things like how I am the best best best best best best mother in the whold wide world.... Or he would tell me that he will love me no matter what....I hear liao dam shiok lor! ;)

Think he will be good at whispering sweet nothings to his girlfriend in future.. HAHAHA :) Just like DADDY!

Previous Post: The Big Lizard Scare

The Big Lizard Scare

The other day, Ace had one of the biggest scares of his life...

You see, it was his birthday on Friday (25th June) and about a week before, I had already bought him his present. When I brought him home, I told him he had to close his eyes when I came into the house till I hide it and then he can open his house because he asked for a surprise...

And he very obeiently closed his eyes while I put his present inside the storeroom...

So for a few days, he did not really think about it...

Come monday he was suppose to have his first round of celebrations at Yeye's house.. so he asked me since he was going to celebrate on monday, could he have his present on monday.. seeing that he is so keen to get his present.. I said OK.. provided that he eats his dinner QUICKLY by himself and completes 5 pages worth of homework...

So he ate his dinner... and while doing his homework, he was really slow and kept losing attention to look at other things... and I told him since he is so free and has so much time, he will have to do 10 pages now.. and to make sure he finished on time, I gave him a timeline that he has to finish by 9.30pm... (also cos I was intending to go over to Yeye's house at 10pm and figured he will want to play with his new toy for a while...)

But at around 9.20pm.. he started losing patience and ran away from the table... I wondered where he was and suddenly, he exclaimed from somewhere, "Mummy! Mummy! There is a lizard!!!"

"Where?" I asked him... and when I looked around, I realized the storeroom door is open and the lights are on.. so I figured he is there.. "Where?"I asked him again, still seated in a corner of the living room...

"There is lizard here..." and the he came to me and showed me his feet..."There is here.." And then he himself looked at his own leg and saw a squashed lizard body.. and it was light brown and also some sort reddish colour as well.. and he started to scream... "Ahhhhh... " and he kept screaming and screaming.. I was in shock for 2 seconds and then woke up, ran to the tissue box to get tissue, passed to my mother who was beside him and she wiped it off for him.. and then I carried him and washed his leg in the toilet and throughout it all, he was still screaming and crying...

And after that, I hugged him very tight and told him that it is ok and that I am beside him and will protect him...

I have never seen Ace so hysterical in my life..

And for the next half an hour, he refused to touch the floor.. even when he is doing homework, he wants to sit on my lap and if he wantes to go anywhere, he wants us to carry him there...

"Still got lizard.. still got..." he said and he pointed to the storeroom.. so my mum went in, saw a tail and picked it up with a tissue and threw it away...

I told him that the lizard is gone because Popo threw it away and he insisted that he saw the lizard running into the kitchen...

Anyway, he finally calmed down somewhat and I wanted to help him get over it and conquer his fear and so when he finished his homework. so i told him we will go together to the storeroom.. I will protect him.. and we will get the present together...after some persuasion, he agreed.. He was wary and walking slowly and kept wanting to run away...

Thankfully, once he got his present, he forgot about his fears and started focusing on happy things like playing with his present.

Later before we slept, I asked him what really happened and found out that he had wanted to peep at his present.. but then he saw the lizard and accidentally stepped on it... and the tail broke off and so he saw the tail wriggling.. and he showed me his leg cos he felt a pain on his toes because "I stepped on the bones and the bones are hard.." and I think he lost it when he saw the squashed lizard on his leg...

When I told Max about it, he said he had goosebumps just reading about this cos he has a fear for lizards... My grandma reminded Ace that he is a brave boy and he shouldnt be afraid of lizards..

I am happy to say he walks past the storeroom normally now BUT still does not like lizards... :P

Previous Post: Fathers' Day

Fathers' Day

Well, this Fathers' Day is a very special one.. because Ace's father is not around...

Because i had already made some bread for Mother's Day, I must be fair and make something for my fathers... but leh, because I was so bz, i needed to do something simpler compared to the bread making...

The other day, we went to Ganma K's house to make muffins and ice cream and I realized it is quite easy to make muffins and so I got the receipe and set out to make my very first batch of muffins...

Unfortunately though..hahahaha... my skill not so good, so i put too much dough in each try and they all expanded and became one BIG TRAY of muffins.. i had to use knife to cut them out... the leftover dough, I made a mini cake and by the time i was done, I found out that I had no time to cook dinner.. so we had muffins for dinner that day.. HAHAHA....

Anyway, even though they didn't look good.. they tasted really good.. cos it has all our love (and sweat and mucus too) in it... hahahahah....

I sent the pics to Max and he says that he wants to eat them too.. i guess we will make some for him when he comes back...

PS: Ace also made a card and the school gave some cookies.. I sent the card to Max in Dubai BUT the cookies Ace wanted to keep and eat and share with Gong Gong.. so I din send any.. Sorry, Max:)

PS: Happy birthday, Ace! will blog more about your birthday celebrations soon :)

PPS: I asked Ace to call his Yeye to wish him happy fathers' day and my son actually had a sense of humour to tell his Yeye when Yeye asked him on the phone, "Who are you?", that he is "Shi Xiong" and giggle and tell his Yeye.. "Wo zuo nong ni de..."

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Kinderland Family Bonding Day At The Botanic Gardens

We took part in a Family Bonding Day event at Botanic Gardens and had lots of fun:) Our team came in third! :)

Previous Post: The Importance of Imagination In Parenting

The Importance of Imagination In Parenting

Children are naturally master of imagination! And their imagination is often wild and active!But as adults, we parents very often seem to have forgotten that we were once like them and that we are an imaginative lot...

Someone just related this story to me... A mother of a 2 year old saw how much her two year old loved those motorized big sized toy car.. so she spent $120 and bought one for her child on her birthday... her daughter was so excited and played with it intensively for about 2 weeks and then forgot about it...

About a few weeks later, they purchased a new TV and because they had no use for the box, they chucked it one side only to find that their daughter started to use it as a toy. This time round, she also played with the box for around 3 weeks and the mother exclaimed, "If I had known that the box is more fascinating for her.. I wouldn't have spent that much money on that toy car and would have just given her a box which was FREE!"I related this story to my mum who is a childcare teacher for 16 years and she said this is probably due to the fact taht children have very active imaginations.. if you give them a toy that is too life-like, they do not really get to make use of their imagination... but something like a box, with a little help from your imagination could transform into so many different things that would give you so many different expereinces and adventures...

So when my son requests for some sort of toy from me, I sometimes try to use my imagination and come up with creative ways to to create that toy. A handcuff could be two paper bag handles linked by a few rubber bands.. or two paper rings I made by folding and sticking two ends of the paper together before I linked them with a ribbon...Following our lead, my son starts to get creative and makes his own handcuffs using lego blocks and cardboard boxes...

Well, a bigger box like a printer box can become a boat, or a taxi, or a car... turned upside down it can become a house.. or a hotel... and sometimes a table and a chair....His cries for a POLICE CAR that can be driven around ended up with someone giving him a second hand toy car.. he actually pasted some masking take... put the words POLICE on it and drew the Singapore Police Force logo on it and tadah, it becomes a police car.. siren included (which was made from some rolled up paper into a cylinder shape and hoisted on the car using masking tape)...

So next time your child cries out for a new toy, why not try making one with him ;) It will bring you and your child lots of joy, lots of bonding time and SAVE YOU LOTS OF MONEY :)

Previous Post: I Don't Care What People Say, I Am Still His Frien...

I Don't Care What People Say, I Am Still His Friend

Think has has the potential to be a child model.. now he is quite good in posing for the camera no matter where we are... I took these at his last lessons and he actually specially posed for me...

Anyway, Ace's swimming class underwent a huge change.. alotof the girls stopped their classes and Ace's favourite friend was not there anymore... now, the class has a new indian student and the rest from the old class are just Ace, XH and L.

Now L is the little boy in Ace's class who is always up to some mischief and Ace is always angry tat L disturbs him and will do things like mimicking how the teacher scolds L or going to L's mother to complain...

From our observations, our guess is tat L is a special needs kid.. he is probably either a ADHD child or a lightly autistic... that is why he seem to not be able to sit still and will not be able to control his emotions or his behaviour....

Max gave Ace some prep talk and i also seperately gave Ace a prep talk... we tried to talk to him using diff analogies and finally found one tat worked...

Cos the other day when we were home from swimming class, I asked Ace if he enjoyed his class and if L disturbed him again..

"Ya, he disturbed me.. But I am still his friend... I don't care what other people do or what other people say, I still choose to be his friend because I want to help him..."

Ah..so my last prep talk that took place about a month ago worked! :)

Finally, I explained to Ace that L is a special child. He has a condition and that makes him unable to control his behavoiur.. that is why he seems to always be disturbing them. He cannot control or stop himself at all... I explained to Ace that the only way we can help someone like L is really just to send them love and be their friend when they are doing their 'naughty things'.

I also explained to him that everything is a choice. It does not matter if other children want to be friends with L.. but Ace has the power of CHOICE to choose whether he wants to help L and be his friend...

I am so glad Ace rememebered what I shared with him...

Previous Post: Why You Never Give Birth To Another Baby

Why You Never Give Birth To Another Baby

It was the first wedding anniversary that Max is unable to spend with me..

So being a romantic who knows what his wife likes and wants, he sent me a bouquet of flowers... secretly...

But leh, the flower delivery man "puah" his 'kang tao' lor.... he called me and asked me, "Hello, are you swee swee Angel? Are you at home now? We want to send flowers to you..."

I was wondering who is that looking for "swee swee" angel.. and then when I realized they were flowers, everything fell into place.. I think they meant "Sweet Sweet Angel because Max must have indicated that the flowers were for Sweet Sweet Angel... (I repeated the story to Max later and Ace overheard me and always repeats this story to me again and again like a funny joke he likes.. Ace thinks it is really funny)

Hahaha.. hilarious!

When Ace saw the flowers, he asked me why Daddy sent me flowers and I told him it was our wedding anniversary. But Ace could not understand what is a wedding anniversary and so I explained that 6 years ago on this day, daddy and mummy got married... he mistook for it to mean that we are married again today and he pursed his lips and ran into the room to be 'angry'..

I asked him what was the matter and he told me, "I am so angry, mummy.. why you all get married again and don't have a baby?"

I told him that I did.. and the baby is Ace... and he got very agitated... "I don't mean me.. I mean you get married again.. why you don't have a new baby.. I want a mei mei Anya!" and folded his arms and pursed his lips...

Turns out that Ace has a misunderstood thinking that if you get married, you got to have children.. hahahahahahah.... anyway, he was ok after a while when I explained to him a few more times about what it means to have a wedding anniversary.. I told Max about this and he said I should explain to him like wedding anniversary is like one's birthday... I guess he is right... the birth of a new marriage, a new commitment:)

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