EQ Master, Ace!

Today I was feeling really proud of myself. :)

Today, is one of the new year visiting days and we went to visit one of Daddy's frens at their classmates gathering. As the females in the clique were all about our age, about 50% of them were married with children and there was a number of children there between the range from 5-37 months.

One of the 17 month old cried and Ace just walked up to him, put his hands behind his back and told the baby boy, "Don't cry..."

"Aw... that is so sweet!" exclaimed the mother of the baby boy...

And the little toddler continued to cry....

Ace then moved his hand up and down his back and patted him and asked him, "Why?"

"Wow Ace, you are such a good boy. This is excellent! Excellent!" exclaimed the boy's mother.

Wah... my son who is 2.5 years old has empathy and is so good natured! I was so proud of me and Daddy and gave ourselves a pat on the back in my mind...

Actually, previously, I already know he is quite a well-natured and well behaved boy...

Recently he attended a birthday party where there were alot of children. Since he was not really well versed in the 'ways of the world'... when they played, he often would try to join in whether he knew them or not.. and whether they wanted him to or not.

Sometimes when the children are not ready to share, they would push him away or they would cry.

Ace remains unperturbed. He gives them a strange look that looks like he is thinking, "Why is this person so strange.. how come he behaves this way?" and just continues to play with something else.

One of the children was rather 'evil' in that she would pretend to look innocent after she shoved and hurt other children... and Ace was one of her victims.. but despite that, he still played with them and never said a thing.. even though we discovered some injury (which we suspected were inflicted by her on him during the party as she was the most sly and violent one) on him after that.

And one thing about Ace... when other children are playing with their toys, he would be curious and watch them but he rarely tries to snatch it away from them.. he would just sit beside them and watch and most of the time, they are also happy to let him watch. If he snatches them away. The moment we ask him to return, he will return it to them.

Anyway, another incident happened just now where a little boy brought his toys along and refused to let Ace play with them. Ace kept following him and the toys but made no attempt to snatch it from him. He just stood there and waited.

Ace ran to me and told me, "Mama, gor gor toys..."

"Well, if you want to play with him, go and ask him nicely..." I told him.

"I don't want to play with you!" the little boy told Ace quite meanly.

So Ace ran back to me and told me, "Mummy, gor gor angry..."

"That means gor gor is not ready to share his toys with you. So you go and play with other people and other things lor. There are so many other things and other people for you t0 play with here.. right?"

"Mama... papa (frightened) gor gor..." said Ace. I think he was trying to say he was upset because he pursed his lips for a while after that.

"See Ace, if you don't like how it feels when people don't want to share with you. Next time when people want to play with your toys, please remember to share with them, ok?"

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