First Visit To New House

I thought I should at least visit our new house a little after I got the keys... so after work, instead of heading home, I took a bus over to Bedok to look at our new place.

 It was exciting to come here for the first time. I asked Ace if he wanted to join me but he didnt. So I came alone..

 My everything also dun have house:) ahahha Only go ttoilet bowl..

 Living ROom..

 Kitchen...

I really had a headache because I had never done shifting of house or reno on my own before. To make things worse, Ace was in super emo mode because he knew we were shifting out of the same house as his dad.

It was really tough for me to be overseeing such a major project all by myself. It was the first time I was doing all these. I had to pack the things we wanted to shift, plan the reno, measure the house so I knew wat could fit where, clean the new house, buy all sorts of things, transfer stuff over,  arrange for movers and Ace looked as if it totally did not want anything to do with it.

Me measuring new house by myself...

I ended up having to do everything by myself because no matter what I did, Ace refused to come to this house or to help me with anything. Even I tell him outright that i needed his help, he also refused to help. Because I understood his pain, I let him be and just pushed myself on to do the best i could by myself. I also dun have alot of time to spare so I had to do the best i could.

The irony is.. though I never felt more alone, but I also never felt more loved or supported.

Lucky for me, I had alot of people who came and helped and poured their love into me and Ace and our new house during this period.... and to these people, thank you:

• Elisa, my JCI sister, who passed me a bunch of furniture she preloved such as fridge, sofa and drawers, mixer and gave me lots of advice about renovation and what to do.
  
• Jez and Zijian, who gave me a guideline of what to do and how to do it... and who stayed up for many late nights with me to talk about design lah.. choose colour schemes and materials to be used and brought me to IKEA and COURTS to do research
  
• Da Ge Neo, my contractor, now friend, who really stepped it up to help me with completing the reno on time so that I could move in on time. He even sent me to Msia to buy lights so I could save money. He help me right.. still dun let me give him a treat.. treat me to kway tiao and even bought me "best duck in JB". And out of goodwill, he spent half a day in my house to help me put up the curtains that his daughter helped me order from Taobao. He also helped me settle my issues with my screed flooring and asked for discount from his various vendors for me.
  
  
  
  
  
  
• Zhenwei, my colleague and brother.. .who also helped me drive boxes and what nots home. Who also drove us to IKEA for lunch and more research
  
• My group of friends who came forth with gifts... washing machine lah, dining table, hot pot, auto vacumn cleaner, muji clock, TV, etc etc etc..
  
  
• My mom and sis who also gifted tv console, coffee table and an oven to me
  
• Sis AC and her husband William, who went shopping with me to research and helped me lug the drawers I bought from IKEA back to my new house.. it was no mean feat! And also helping me to buy the dining table, tv console and matching coffee table when I had no time to do it.

  

  Us having a cuppa before shopping in IKEA:)

• Last but not least, many many thanks to Max... who generously paid for majority of the house and renovation so Ace and me have a roof over our head and our very own home as part of our divorce settlement. 

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Breakfast At HDB

 It's finally here...

Our BTO that we have waited for  so long is finally here!

Finally we can go down to collect the keys.

After I collected the keys, I decided I will have breakfast alone to celebrate :)

Mmm.... Nice!

But I guess when you are in good mood.. everything tastes nice:)

That being said, it would have been nicer.. if I didnt need to celebrate and eat breakfast alone:) Oh well, I guess time I learnt... since as everything falls into place, I will likely need to eat alone more and more.

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• My First Half

My First Half

So my good sister, Jez, gave me this book as  a present. She said it is super apt for me.

The story is about this woman who got divorced in her late 30s and she was also a homemaker like me...and it was about how she stood up and and started to live he rlife in the most wonderful way.

Apparently, she says she has this book in her home bookshelf and it is a well loved book at home. In fact, when her sister heard I was going to divorce, she suggested giving their copy of this book for me to read...

But the side story about this is... as this is a chinese book, I was always reading a little bit at a time and it took me a long time to read it and over time, I had forgotten the exact title of the book. BUt because the storyline was mostly about what happened after the divorce, so I somehow got mixed up about the title.

When I was telling a friend about this book, I told him the book is called 我的下半生... and when I explained what the story is about, he laughed and told me, he tot it is a story of someone who was paralyzed from waist down.. or maybe it was some story about sex... LOL....

When I reached home and took the book out, I told him I had made a mistake.. title is actually 我的前半生... He laughed and said.. All my fault i made him misunderstood such a good book. LOL ;)

But well, regardless of what the title is... I am inspired to live my life well alone so that I have a good second half of my life:)

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• Haidilao With Ace And Annie

Haidilao With Ace And Annie

 Ganma Annie asked if Ace will like to have dinner with her and suggested her favorite.. Haidilao:)

 And it is when Ace fell in love with the Haidilao Egg Fried rice. He ordered so many portions that they auto upgraded it to super big portion:) hahahah

 We meat pple enjoy our meat lor:)

 Ace was so happy the gor gor waiter help him dabao snacks to bring home

The following week, I went again to eat there with Annie but Ace did not want to join us. Godma did not forget him though and dabao a set of the fried rice with some veg home for him..

BUT.. though he already had dinner by time i reached home.. He STILL decided to finish it up! hahahaaha...

Anyway, Haidilao became one of our fav dinner places... and going with Annie is always cool cos she is VIP there so I am always pampered.. sometimes is I get presents.. sometimes can do manicure... sometimes I get to drink wine... (after she poses with the bottle because she is allergic to alchohol).. haahha...  As for Ace, he is just happy that he has fried rice to eat whenever we do go there:)

She always only pose with the wine.. I am the only one drinking.. LOL

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• Plant A Tree

Plant A Tree

Remember when we planted a tree as a family?

We actually had a chance to do it again when our Lions Club organized the event... (hehe.. I designed the WA promo above. Nice boh).. But in the end, it didnt happen because I guess with our family in "pieces", it was kind of difficult at the moment to do something as one team...

Max left for the event early, I joined later (since it was so close to home) and Ace refused to wake up no matter how I asked him to wake.. so I gave up and went on my own...

 It was actually a pretty cool event and lots of fun...

But for me, it was really super awkward.. it was the time where everyone just found out about our divorce... and then it was when Max was still behaving strangely somewhat and Ace was super emo due to all that has happened...

I think what made it worse is that when I saw so many of our friends happily enjoying the event with their kids, it made it especially painful for me to remember that I no longer had this "complete" family.

 That is me planting a tree.. with the help of some people..

 We planted 200 trees that day :)

Anyway, I was still happy to see my friends there:)

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• Ace's Green Fingers

Ace's Green Fingers

Aunty Elisa gave Ace a green plant to take care of to see if he has green fingers....

And not bad wor.. grow by itself naturally wor.

Alas, the plant broke when we moved and has since RIP...

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• Ace's Swimming Exam

Ace's Swimming Exam

Woke up early to wake Ace for his swimming exam. Asked if he can go himself, he said yes.

Called me 30 min later cos he din bring swimming trunks and goggles! Who goes to a swimming exam without swimming gear i ask you?

 His dad is not available to help too so i had to hand deliver there. Reach there, called but no one pick up phone. Paid for ticket to go in and find him only to realize his coach lent him a pair of shorts for it. Dun need liao also must tell me mah. My time and money are both precious leh. Especially now.

Since already there, stayed on to take some pictures. Then went back home to hang my washing and going back to same place again for my zumba class... #lifeofamother #世上只有妈妈好





Sigh... but at least he passed...

Here is him and his cert in a photo his coach sent me:)





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• Bye Bye Fayth Jie Jie