I Want To Be Selfish

As we were in Dubai, we havent been taking the school bus for a long time. As a result, when we started school again this year, we started seeing Matt Matt again... And I think he was happy to see us.. just as Ace is happy to see him too...

But since a few days ago, while we were waiting for the bus, Matt Matt would come to me and say to me, "Aunty, hug hug..." So I gave him a hug worth maybe about 5 seconds... And Ace would usually join in and we would be doing like a group hug and I was always careful to also extend my arms and put it around Ace...

Anyway, Ace didn't say anything about it.. So I din talk to him about it either...

The next two days, Matt Matt asked for a hug, I did the same thing and included Ace in a group hug...

But on the third day, just before the bus came, Matt Matt asked for a big hug.. he snuggled into my arms, sat on my lap, hugged me and rocked and then gave me a kiss on my cheeks.. After he went down, I went to give Ace a hug as well before he boarded the bus...

I was thinking that my mummy energy must be strong for Mat Mat to do that.. hahaha.. cos it felt like he was my son.. he enjoyed the hug so much that when I asked him if he wanted to go home with me that night, he said YES and Ace cheered because he says then there will be someone to play lego with him...

So that night, I decided to talk to him about it to find out what he thinks about this.. And in case he feels he was robbed of his mother's love, my approach to this topic went something like that..:

Me: Hey Ace, just now when Matt Matt hugged me, it was great right when you, me and matt matt all hugged together.. it felt like you have one more brother, right?

Ace: Yeah!

Me: And it felt good right? Are you happy?

Ace: Yeah!

(Ace paused for 20 seconds and thought about something..)

Ace: But mummy... Next time if Matt Matt wants to hug you, can you dun hug him please?

Me: Why? I thought you are very happy about it?

Ace: (thought for 5 seconds) Because I want to be selfish lah.. (looks a little embarrassed) I dun want you to hug him...

Me: Do you mean that if we have didi and mei mei in the future, I cannot hug them?

Ace: No lah, di di and mei mei are my di di and mei mei mah.. i should respect them and love them mah...

Me: But mummy has enough love to share.. doesnt mean I love you less if I hug other children...

Ace: Ya, I know.. but I want to be selfish mah.. he kissed you leh.. how can he kiss you??!!

Me: Aiyah, just a kiss only mah..

Ace: Cannot! (starting to get angry and talk loudly) Wait he kiss you and then you say "Eee, gross" (I think he means his saliva drops on my face) and then so dirty.. then how? I ask you??!!!

Me: Aiyoh, why you talk so loud and so angry...

Ace; Yeah, I ask you, then how???

Me: So does it mean like if Tiffany want to kiss and hug me also cannot?

Ace: Tiffany can...

Me: Tiffany also not your mei mei what, why she can kiss and hug me?

Ace: Because Tiffany is a good girl.. Matt Matt is a naughty boy, so you cannot kiss and hug him...

HAHAHAHAHA..

I want to faint liao lor.. I told my mother about our conversation and she laughed and said, "I wonder where he learnt all these expressions from..."

I am impressed he is so honest and upfront about it.. "I want to be selfish.." hahahahaha...

PS: Since then, Matt Matt has been asking from a hug from me every day i see him and he now refuses to go on the school bus till I hug him.. Maybe he really does miss out on his mummy's hugs...
Ace is mostly ok with it too and told me that Matt Matt also always hugs him in the bus on the way home since they are usually seated together... hahaha

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