Daddy Is Going To Slap Me Liao

Today, Ace came home from school and the first thing he said to me is that "This time daddy is going to slap me liao.. I got into trouble in school again.. and it is a big trouble.."

Wah.. make me worried leh.. what big trouble Max will slap him.. so I asked him what happened..

Turns out that Ace talked to his classmate during music lesson (second time this school year! he already talked once and disturbed the class and had to write an apology letter to the music teacher the last time!) and so his music teacher asked him to see the discipline mistress on their way out.

So all 4 of them who yakked during class were sent to Ms B... and then when Miss B asked them if they talked in class, Ace LIED and said NO. Miss B talked to all 4 of them.. and then got them to wait outside her room to talk to them one by one...

Ace was asked 3 times if he talked during the music class. He insisted NO and said that they accidentally bumped their heads into each other and said "Ouch" and so Mr M, the music teacher thought they were talking.

wah lau, have to give it to him.. still got story for it some more... and then fourth time he was asked he finally admit that he talked during class.. so he was given a scolding and told tat if he lies again, they will call his parents to school...

And then leh, to make matters worse, during normal lesson time, he was so bz talking that he did not focus and so he did not follow instructions properly. As a result, he was made to stay back during break time to redo all his work.

His teacher wrote a note for me in the SOS book and it went like this:

Hi
Ace has had a day where he has chosen to make some disappointing choices. (wow.. wat a great teacher and wat excellent choice of words) In class, Ace has decided not to listen to instruction and decided to talk instead. this has resulted in him needing to redo work which has not been completed to expectations. In music, Ace acted in such a way to disrupt the specialist lesson. This has resulted in Ace being sent to Ms Black. Please could you discuss today with Ace. I will really appreciate your help with understanding Ace's attitude towards learning at the moment.

Many thanks, Miss R

I asked Ace  how should I reply to his teacher and explain. Sigh..

Anyway, I talked to Ace and he said that for the music lesson, his attention drifted off because he did not understand what was being taught and did not dare to ask his teacher to repeat because he doesnt want to slow the class down. And so he got bored and started talking.

I told him that the purpose that we pay school fees is for him to go to school and learn. So if he don't understand, the only right thing to do is actually to raise his hands and ask. It is better to get the teacher to explain than for him to start talking and get punished or sent to Ms B's office... right?

As for the school work. I asked him alot of questions in different ways and finally pieced together what happened. Apparently, he was listening when his teacher gave the instruction. And he understood the instruction fully. BUT when he was doing his work, he was talking to his friends at the same time and that is the reason why he was unable to implement or execute it properly according to instructions.

I explained to Ace also that when he does not pay attention in class:

1. It is immense disrespect for his favourite teachers
2. It is the opposite of showing appreciation for what others are doing for you
3. It interferes with their work and they cannot do their job properly
4. It is also an absolute waste of time because chances are, he will also not be able to do what he is supposed to do properly, well or correctly.. which means need to redo.. which means needs more time!

As a student, even if he dun like the subject or find it boring, it is his responsibility to listen and learn it well...

I told him I am very disappointed that he made these poor decisions today. As a parent, even though I will feel very paiseh I am asked to go to school, I will still go and I dun mind it that much.. what I care about and mind is whether he learns his lesson and whether he gives his best and leads a good life.

Also, I highlighted to him that talking while doing work is a bad habit of his. He always does that at home and when I nag him.. he dun listen and continue to do it.. so now in school kenna big time lah... 不听老人言，吃亏在眼前...

Anyway, Max came home and told him that his punishment is that he has to chant 2 hours diamoku and reflect on himself while chanting.. wahahahahaha :) No slapping lah.. hahaha..

PS: One of my teachers said that when our children lie, it is a reflection of where somewhere in our lives, we are out of integrity. I wonder what that is.. praying for an inspiration to bring awareness to my consciousness..  Anyway, I had to pick him up that day and asked his teacher about him.. Teacher says Ace is doing better already... phew... Actually when I think back, I also liked to talk when I was this age.. sigh.. maybe he inherited my "A very talkative girl..." trait (that is always the remark in my report book..)

Happy to announce that Ace has been a good boy at home and he said his teacher also said he is good boy now :) wahahahahaha...

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