Would You Tell Your 8 Year Old You Have Been To A Strip Club?

The other day, while we were chatting with Ace, he told me something very surprising...

Ace told me that his classmate, X, told him that X's dad told X that he went to a strip club. I thought I misunderstood and asked Ace to repeat and he repeated the same thing. I thought maybe X was just saying it... and so I asked Ace if he knew what a strip club is.

"Yes I know, X told me... he says that a strip club is a place where women will take off their clothes and after they take off all their clothes, the men will put their fingers into the women's vagina..."

Both me and Max were in shock when we heard that.. it was lucky that we were in a car.. and me and Max were sitting in front and Ace could not see our expressions! I was quite sure this is not true lor.. come on, will you tell your 8 year old you have been to a strip club???

I told Ace this is not really an appropriate topic for children who are 8 years old and I wondered aloud whether X's dad will really tell him that as it is very much age inappropriate!

Ace gave an affirmative and insisted that X's dad did tell X that.. and he added that X now says that he wants to go to a strip club when he grows up. "He says he wants to go to a strip club to find a girlfriend and get married."

I told Ace that is not exactly a place that one will go to look for a wife leh. Ace asked me why and I was stumped for a moment. Wah lau, how to explain why.... simply easier to say "Because I said so" wahahahaha :)

I explained to Ace that women who work in strip clubs could have chosen other jobs but they chose a job that requires them to sell their body for others to see... even their private parts. Private parts are private and should be kept private. You shouldnt like show it to others because they pay money to do so and sell your body like an object. So that is not a good place to find wives.

I told Ace I am concerned and want to tell his teacher because this shouldnt be appropriate discussion among boys their age. Ace told me that he will handle it and he will explain to X why that is not a good place to find wives.

"I really don't understand why X's dad will say that. I think better to tell Ms R.." I told Ace. I think Ace felt that if that were to happen, he will be betraying his friend and so he insisted that he can handle it and added that X's dad told X that to prevent X from going to a strip club.

"But, quite obviously, the opposite has happened.." I reminded Ace. But I told him I respect his decision. If he wants me to keep this to myself. I will. And so I did not tell the teacher and decided just to continue to monitor the situation. I know a few of the other boys are also involved in the conversation.. I just wonder how many of them will have a chance to talk to their parents about that.

The next day, Ace told me that he has already spoken to X and explained to him what I explained to Ace. X says he no longer wants to go to a strip club.

But I think X is more sexually developed than the other boys. Cos a few days later, Ace came home and told me that today, they started talking about dating. Most of the other boys said they had girlfriend and were dating someone... (Ace says he has someone he likes but he is not dating. Cos he likes T but not in a romantic way anymore.. wahahaha)

And X told them that he is dating so and so.. one day, he went to fetch the girl off for a date and when he went to her bedroom, she was in the room naked! X claims he saw EVERYTHING!

I told Ace that could not be true simply because someone X's age will likely not be allowed to go on dates.. much less go to the girl's room while she is not dressed.

All in all, I named a few instances where X was always dua pao xian and told Ace to always take the stories that X tells with a pinch of salt. Dun have to go say, "You are lying!" but just remember he has the habit of being dua pao xian.. wahahahah...

But I am a little concerned and worried for X:

1. How in the world did he get ideas like that in his head?
2. Does he have access to porno at home?
3. Is he watching age inappropriate movies and shows without parental guidance?

I wonder whether I should talk to X's mother or send her an email. But after thinking long and hard, I decided that I will just keep an eye on things and talk to her if I see or hear any more causes for concern.. cos I think most parents might not appreciate other parents telling them "Hey, your son talked to my son about porno stuff.." wahahaha..

Seems like SEX is a hot topic among these boys lately.. cos some time after that, Ace talked to me again and told me that the boys were talking about sexual intercourse again.

"Aiyoh, Ace, that is not age appropriate topic for 8 year old leh.." I told him. Ace says that is what he tells the other boys and they insisted that it is.. wahahahaha...

So I asked him how they started talking about this.. he says it started because they were all talking about the future they were going to have. They talked about how they will finish school.. and they will get good jobs... and then they will find a good girl to marry.. after that, they will have sexual intercourse because they want to have children! Hilarious! wahahahahaha....

I told Ace that while it is true that you need to have sexual intercourse to have children, adults dun really talk about our future like tat:) wahahahaha... I told him the next time his friends have more discussions about sex, maybe he can do what he do best-- CHANGE TOPIC!:) wahahahahaha....  so that they can talk about more 8 year old sort of stuff like toys and games.

Next day, Ace said to me, "I did it, mummy! I changed topic!" And interestingly, the boys no longer talked about sexual intercourse after that.. hahahahahaha...

Children nowadays really mature much faster than we did lor!

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